Bullying is defined as a pattern of aggressive behavior that’s intended to hurt or intimidate someone. Schoolyard bullies have been a problem for generations, and today’s children still have to deal with them, although the tactics bullies use have evolved. Whether bullying happens in physical or verbal form or online, the psychological effects of being bullied can be long-lasting, affecting a child’s self-esteem as well as their performance in school. However, taking action to stop bullying behaviors can minimize these effects.
The first step toward addressing and preventing bullying is being able to recognize it. Bullying isn’t always easy to spot to those who aren’t being bullied. Things to look for include changes in a child’s personality or eating habits, headaches, stomachaches, reluctance to go to school, declining grades, lost or destroyed belongings, or unexplained injuries. Children who are being bullied also may stop spending time with friends or doing activities they used to enjoy.
If a child is being bullied, it’s important to start by listening to them and empathizing with them. Make it clear to the child that it’s not their fault that they’re being bullied. Then, contact the child’s school to let them know about the issue and discuss steps that both you and the child’s teachers can take to keep the child safe and stop the bullying. You should also begin documenting everything related to the bullying, including what your child tells you and any interactions you have with school officials. If the child is struggling to cope with the psychological impact of being bullied, you should also seek help from a school counselor or a therapist.
Kids can also help to make their school a place where bullying isn’t tolerated. Teach kids to say something when they see other students being bullied, either to the bully or to an adult who can step in to stop the behavior. Tell them not to spread rumors about other kids; these rumors are often started by bullies. And encourage them to make an effort to be kind to kids who are victims of bullying, showing them that someone cares about them and they aren’t alone. If a student is particularly passionate about this issue, they could also take action by starting an anti-bullying awareness campaign at school or in the community.
Stopping bullying before it starts requires a concerted effort from schools, parents, and the broader community. Schools can do a lot to stop bullying by promoting a positive school culture that encourages empathy and communication. Anti-bullying education should also be integrated into the curriculum, including teaching students healthy conflict resolution strategies. Schools should also take a zero-tolerance approach to bullying and have clear consequences and procedures to handle bullying incidents. Parents can do their part by modeling kind and respectful behavior for their children and encouraging them to behave the same way. Anti-bullying workshops and awareness campaigns can also help to make the broader community a safe and supportive place.
Resources for Children
- What Is a Bully?
- How to Deal With Bullies
- What Kids Can Do to Stop Bullying
- What Should I Do if I’m Being Bullied?
- Responding to Cyberbullying: Ten Tips for Teens
- What to Do if Someone Is Bullying You
- How to Stand Up Against Bullying
- What if I See Someone Being Bullied?
- What to Say to Someone Who Is Being Bullied
- Five Ways to Prevent a Friend From Bullying
Resources for Parents and Guardians
- Bullying: What it Is and How to Stop It
- Helping Kids Deal With Bullies
- How to Deal With Bullying in Schools
- How Parents, Teachers, and Kids Can Take Action to Prevent Bullying
- How to Arm Your Child Against Bullying
- Six Signs Your Child Is Being Cyberbullied
- How to Help Your Child if They Are Being Bullied
- Seven Tips for Helping Your Child Deal With Bullying
- When Your Child Is the Bully: Tips for Parents
- Nine Ways to Stop and Prevent Child Bullying
- Find Legal Help to Support Your Child
- Eight Steps to Take if Your Child Is Being Bullied at School